Monday, November 16, 2009

Author Barbora Knobova talks about Happiness

Barbora Knobova is a writer, relationship coach and expert in Delicious Life. Barbora is a firm believer in female friendship, loyalty and bonding. And writes hilarious, sharp-witted, caustically apt, ironic, moving, true books for strong, independent, smart, fearless women. She is always on the move, accompanied by her beagle Brinkley, the nasty dog from her new book, Tales for Delicious Girls.


Happiness: Does It Depend On Things?

In my books I encourage women to pursue their own happiness. I believe that we are responsible for our happiness and that being happy is a choice. However, many people say: "How can I be happy when there are so many things I desire and cannot have?"

We tend to associate happiness with material things that we either can or cannot afford. It's wonderful to be able to surround yourself with beautiful things and there is nothing wrong with that. However, real happiness is an attitude that comes from within, not from the world that surrounds us. And I am convinced that happiness goes hand in hand with gratitude.

If you focus on what you have now and appreciate every little detail in your life, you will soon find out that you have so many things to be grateful for. Gratitude creates satisfaction and satisfaction creates happiness. You cannot be truly happy if you keep thinking about the things that you lack and neglect the things that you have today. When you are deeply grateful for what you have now and for everything you have achieved, you are able to enjoy every minute of your life because you don't stress about not having enough.

This is one of my favorite quotations; it always reminds me of how much I can be grateful for:

If you woke up this morning with more health than illness, you are more blessed than the million who will not survive this week.

If you have food in your refrigerator, clothes on your back, a roof over your head and a place to sleep, you are richer than 75 percent of this world.

If you have money in the bank or in your wallet, you are among the top 8 percent of the world's wealthy.

If you hold up your head with a smile on your face and are truly thankful, you are blessed because the majority can, but most do not.

If you believe that your happiness depends on all those things that you desire but do not own yet, try to change your mindset just a little bit. Chances are that when you get those things you wish for, you will start longing for other things and your happiness won't last long. When you are grateful for what you have now, you can still want more but your happiness doesn't depend on getting these things or failing to get them.

Make a list of everything you are grateful for. Things, people, relationships, emotions, experiences. You will realize that when you focus on what you don't have, you miss many wonderful, important things and events in your life. Keep your dreams, wishes and desires, but don't wait until they come true to be happy. Instead, look for reasons to be happy right now. And you will see that happiness really is a choice.
That is truly inspiring and a very good thing to keep in mind this Holiday season. I love what Barbara talks about and in some small way try to follow it in my personal life. I hope you do too!

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  1. Hi! Thank you for featuring my guest post, I'm glad you like it.

    Have a *Delicious* day!


  2. This is a fantastic post and a wonderful reminder of what is really important in life. Barbara Knobova's words are so important and a wonderful reality check particularly at this time of year and greed and materialism are especially rampant and vulgar. I think in this period of recession it's a good time for people to realize how little they really actually need to live a happy and accomplished life. Ms. Knobova sounds like a brilliant and honest woman to me! Thank you for this post.

  3. I love the way this woman thinks. It's true. We must love what we have now...our health, family, etc. I drive people nuts sometimes because I always see the glass half full. I believe we must always look at the positive and give that power.

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  4. What an excellent reminder! I started a gratitude journal several years ago but haven't added any entries in a while.