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Book Excerpt - Internet Dating Is Not Like Ordering a Pizza

About the Book

Internet Dating Is Not Like Ordering a Pizza  by Cherie Burbach

Have you become frustrated with Internet dating?

If you've tried online dating and given up, or even if you thought the Internet wasn't right for you, this book will give you the courage to try again, this time armed with specific illustrations on what really works - from the profile through the dating stage. Don't waste another minute wondering why some people seem to have Internet dating success while you're still waiting for a response to your online ad. Through dozens of concrete examples, dating expert Cherie Burbach will show you how to write an eye-catching profile, search for, and meet the right person online.

About the Author

Cherie Burbach used her experience with meeting her husband online to pen At the Coffee Shop, a humorous look at the world of Internet dating. Cherie went on over 60 coffee dates in just six months. She met lots of great people and one of those turned out to be the guy she would marry just one year later.

She is the Dating Feature Writer for Suite101, an online magazine with over 10 million views monthly, and also the author of three poetry books, including A New Dish and The Difference Now. Her latest, Father's Eyes, has received the 2008 Editor's Choice Award by Allbooks Review. Cherie blogs at Jennifer Lopez, Jessica and Ashlee Simpson, Career and Kids, Celebrity Apprentice, Gossip on Sports, and Diabetes Notes.

For poets looking for a review of their book, check out Cherie's new site Bonjour Poetry Reviews.

Readers have resonated with Cherie's honest and inspirational "This I Believe" essay, which is the second-most popular out of over 32,000 entries on the NPR website. For more information, please visit Cherie's website at www.thedifferencenow.com or www.datingdatingall-things-dating.blogspot.com.

Book Excerpt

The key to a great essay is making it describe you. Not just listing things about you, but writing in a way that will allow potential dates to envision you going about your daily life. After all, every unique aspect about you is what is going to attract someone. So don’t be afraid to let your personality show, and make sure you write about your life in a way in which potential matches can not only envision you but also picture themselves going on a date with you. People are visual creatures by nature, so you can’t just tell us about something. You’ve got to show us.

Of course, rules that apply in a profile apply to an essay as well. For example, no negativity. No yakking about ex’s, and no cheesy phrasing that mentions walks on the beach or holdings hands (and especially not holding hands while walking on the beach). And by all means, don’t wonder what’s wrong with women or why there aren’t any more nice guys in the world as part of your profile either. Your profile isn't the place to ponder why you're single.

Simply put: any kind of negative ponderings or self-talk turn people off. Besides that, nobody really wants to hear it because we could all complain endlessly if we wanted to. But why do that? Instead, focus on the next exciting stage of your dating life: finding the right person. The tone of your essay gives as much of an impression as burping and farting do on a date. Show your best self until someone really gets to know you.

Readers, your thoughts / comments are most welcome.

This Book Excerpt posted here is part of this book's virtual tour, courtesy Pump Up Your Book Promotion.
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  1. This sounds like a great book.

    Cheryl

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  2. Sounds like a pretty fun read. I met my husband online, but I didn't go through a large coffee date kind of process. In fact, when I met my husband I had told him we could never date because we lived in two different states. We became friends...and then fell in love. ;)

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    It is too important to look for some dating tips for shy guys, isn’t it? Yes, of curse, because, shy guys would be in emotional trouble, if they don’t have good tips and advice. In terms of getting familiar with each other, the profile is main source of information to know each other, take time to know each other well, before providing any important information that you think that may create any problem if the person is not faithful.

    Flirting can also be a tip, if you know how to flirt well? Because it is the way to let the people say their nature. Well, flirting is absolutely funny thing if it is performed interestingly. You should never use the way of flirting that gives misunderstanding about you. I mean you shouldn’t be offensive while flirting.

    Being alert and truthful is also a tip and it carries lot of weight in terms of dating. I’m sure that you would never want to have a doubtful relationship where is impossibility of truth. You want the girl who likes you for who you are. You should use your real picture regardless using someone else’s photo because truth will come out one day. Always start conversation positively not mentioning your problem. You may share your upset later, when you know each other well. Main thing in dating is to find the real partner whose interests match your interest. When you meet someone first time, you should look for the ways of talking as it is the first step. If you would try to copy someone’s other nature then it may be difficult for you when your partner will know your real face.

    Above mentioned points would help shy guys a lot in making a girl interested. You should keep the conversation light and natural. Acting to be much smarter and stronger may not be good for those women who are looking for good relationship. First of all start slowly to make her interested in you. But, keep your profiles always interesting ensuring that it is your profile not of other person. These tips would help a shy guy attract girls and you would pass good time with her and you will enjoy your life.

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